For Mums

5 Reasons to See a *Therapist* At Least ONCE After Childbirth

22/03/2017
Postpartum Blues, Depression

Postpartum can be very overwhelming. All the women research thoroughly about labor/delivery/pregnancy/breastfeeding but what they don’t take into account is their own well being emotionally, mentally and physically. Postpartum recovery can be tough and with a whole new responsibility of handling and nourishing a newborn baby, it can he highly stressful.

The point to note here is that around 80% women suffer from baby blues and postpartum anxiety. Societal pressures of being a great mother along with pregnancy hormones levelling down meddles with emotional aspect of your health too.

 

#1

Breastfeeding is both Stressful/Exhausting

Breastfeeding is perseverance.  All moms would agree on this. You have to try harder each day to make sure baby is latching, you are having good milk supply, baby is not hungry (every 2-3 hours) etc. All of this can make it hard on you at times when you are yourself struggling to recover from childbirth. Not able to sleep straight for 6-8 hours will disturb your schedule and can make you even more tired than you already are.

 

#2

Postpartum can mess around with your relationships/Social Life

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You won’t have time to even take a shower or pamper yourself for at least a month or two till you yourself get used to your new MOM life. This might irritate you a little bit especially if you are an extrovert. The best way to deal with this is to have your friends visit over for a few hours. They will not only help you vent out your frustration but will also help you in your daily chores to take off burden from you.

 

#3

Hormones are creating a Whack in your brain’s chemical structure.

Hormones are going to come back to their normal level immediately after you give birth, this can cause a mayhem in your brain’s chemical structure making it easy for you to deviate from your normal self.

 

#4

Postpartum can interfere with your sex life/intimacy.

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Your doctor would advise you to restrain from any sexual intimacy till at least 4-6 weeks of childbirth. It’s more than that if you have had higher degree vaginal tears and also if your recovery process of going slow.

Even if the doctor gives you the green signal, you might not feel that urge to get close to your partner because of decrease in estrogen levels. Estrogen is responsible to increase blood flow to the pelvic area and thus increases your sexual energy both during pregnancy and ovulation. Due to decrease in blood flow, there is also vaginal dryness which can make sex painful and less entertaining.  

Try to maintain a good relationship with your partner by talking out everything you feel and also trying some home dates to keep the love alive. Read this blog for some ideas here.

 

#5

Lack of Support.

Ask for help when needed. You might feel that being alone is a better idea because of all the emotions rushing back but it’s not true. You will feel lonely and sad with so much work when your body is also not in the mood to get pushed.

If you feel that having someone over is too much, then ask a friend or a relative who is close by to visit you for a few hours.

 

Baby blues change into Postpartum depression for around 20% of women and Postpartum Psychosis for about 1-2% of women.

Most common symptoms are:

  • Not feeling connected to the baby. (SUREFIRE sign)
  • Hallucination/Delusions.
  • Nightmares / Flashbacks.
  • Extreme Panic/Anxiety.
  • Refusal to Eat.
  • Extreme incoherence, memory loss, confusion.

 

Seeing a therapist is just too make sure everything is okay, just like a physical checkup go for a mental checkup too. It’s never too late. Taking care of your Mental Health is never something to be ashamed of. Pull down the taboo and start taking your brain seriously too.

Tell us how you handled your baby blues and surpassed it like a Super Mom. Jot down your stories in the Comments section below.

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15 Comments

  • Reply NEHA JAIN 27/04/2017 at 5:38 pm

    I so agree with all the pointers. I was lucky to have everyone’s support and tread that period smoothly.
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    • Reply admin 27/04/2017 at 10:13 pm

      Just read your post. It was really good.

  • Reply Swati Verma 27/04/2017 at 5:49 pm

    THis was really interesting and useful <3

  • Reply Shipra Trivedi 27/04/2017 at 10:06 pm

    My husband was very supportive that time and that was the biggest help. But in case of lack of any support system for the new mother, a therapist can play a big role.

    • Reply admin 27/04/2017 at 10:11 pm

      Support from your loved ones matters the most. :)

  • Reply Nayantara Hegde 28/04/2017 at 1:13 am

    I agree with so many points here. It is important to get help fast either from a professional or from someone close and who knows you and what you are going through. I buried myself in work and somehow emerged brighter happier and sane at the end of it.

  • Reply Shub 28/04/2017 at 6:26 am

    PND is a real issue and recently I ran one such campaign on awareness on postpartum. Support of spouse and family member go a long way.

  • Reply Pulkit Sharma 19/06/2017 at 10:03 am

    Appreciate your work and kept these points in my mind, thanks

  • Reply Tonya Wilhelm 19/06/2017 at 6:37 pm

    Such a great post. So many times people think they can work it out themselves. I would much rather take this proactive role.

  • Reply Divyanka 19/06/2017 at 6:41 pm

    These points are really helpful. I never knew anything like this existed. Informative article.

  • Reply Nena 20/06/2017 at 12:13 am

    I love this. Therapy is so important, but so often overlooked.

  • Reply Phaytea's Pulse 20/06/2017 at 1:12 am

    I now see the importance of seeing a therapist..Counselling is important

  • Reply Tessa 20/06/2017 at 2:09 am

    I am not a mom yet and all of these reasons do scare me a little to become one! But, I enjoyed reading your post because I can imagine that all of the points are very useful for moms.

  • Reply Finja 20/06/2017 at 4:32 pm

    I can only imagine how life with a child is like…..
    x finja | http://www.effcaa.com

  • Reply Pammy 20/06/2017 at 8:06 pm

    This is such an informative post. A great read.

    Pammy – joyfulsource.com

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