Most of the parents become anxious thinking about the relationship development between their toddler and the new baby. There are so many things that will be completely unexpected. And not to forget the “double” work, which comes with it.
Still many mothers have testified they would not trade what they have EVER, even though, a little me-time, here and there is necessary to recharge them.
In this blog, we are going to talk about some tips, which could help you enjoy the time with your babies before they grow up.
First and foremost thing to remember is to Be CONFIDENT. You have done this before and you CAN do it again. Journey might be different but the roads are same. So, don’t worry about handling your newborn. You are a PRO already .
Remember that the infant’s memory is still loose and they might not remember anything but your toddler will. Don’t reduce the time you spend with him or tell him NO just because your newborn needs your full ATTENTION. It will create a huge impact on toddler’s mind and could result in resentment and loneliness.
How to prepare your toddler for a newborn ?
- Tell him the news when you are 3-4 months pregnant, right about the time your belly will also start showing. That will bring about a lot of questions, so be Prepared.
- Include him in the pregnancy part too. Ask him to sing/read to the baby. Let him know that the baby can hear everything you say.
- Explain to him that you are a little exhausted because of all the energy your body is taking up to make the new baby. Give him examples like when he runs around a lot, the body uses energy, which makes it tired. Similarly, making a baby is also difficult. This will inculcate in him a sense of sensitivity for you and the baby. And the attachment will also grow.
- Include him in the stuff which you pick out for your baby like clothes, swaddles, cribs etc. Ask him what he likes and purchase something of his choice too.
- Show him videos of newborn babies (of BREASTFEEDING too). Don’t go overboard. A few videos so that he is already mentally prepared for all the crying + breastfeeding sessions that are going to happen.
- Show him his photos of when he was a baby.
- Make him excited about becoming a older sibling. Treat him as your due date gets closer. Example: when you complete 8 months, get him a little treat and tell him, in just a month he would have a younger sibling to take care of.
- Tell him his responsibilities as an elder sibling. Like playing with the baby when he is crying, reading him baby books or helping momma arrange his drawers.
- Don’t hide breastfeeding from the toddler. Instead, include him in the Breastfeeding sessions. Tell him this is how small babies get all their nutrition and how you breastfed him too when he was born. If you shut the door or tell him to go out every time you feed your baby, it will just make him more curious and irritated.
- Instead when you breastfeed your baby, talk to your toddler. You can read to him, play games with him or tell him stories about when he was a baby.
- Also make sure, that the toddler is already comfortable with the people she will spend time with while you go through labor and childbirth. Instead, let her spend a day with her caretakers once before the delivery. This will prepare her too.
How to manage the toddler when the baby arrives ?
- It’s time for CELEBRATION. Throw a little party for your little one with some cake, snacks etc. Make him feel special about the new title he has earned now. Give him a gift and tell him that the baby wants to gift him that.
- Also make sure that he realises that childbirth has drained you of a lot of energy, just like you explained about pregnancy. So you will need a lot of rest and help. The more you talk to him, the more he will try to understand and relate with your exhaustion.
- Make sure that you have a routine. Now it may not work always, but do try to time schedule everything as much as possible. It’s okay if you clean the house just once in two days or order the food from outside very frequently. Make sure that your toddler has a routine too and the baby’s cries and wants, don’t disrupt his schedule. Therefore, it’s better that you transition him to his own separate room before the baby arrives. Sometimes the routine will be thrown out of the window, but that’s okay.
- From day 1, encourage your toddler to play with your newborn. Initially games such as talking, making faces, letting baby touch toys such as stuffed toys, rattles etc. are good to go. Teach your toddler what’s safe for the baby and what’s not.
- Split your time between both of them. If you are not able to spend as much time with the toddler, make sure that the husband does.
- Don’t cut yourself out of the activities you used to do with your toddler. You can reduce the amount of time though.
The LAST tip would be to change your perspective and consider this time to be very special because your babies will grow up quickly. And this stage is the cutest of them all.
Enjoy your time with your little SQUISHIES.
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