Soon your life is gonna change forever. (In a Good Way!) And all women sometimes might miss their pre-baby life. Not to forget the responsibility and work that goes into taking care of a newborn is huge. Hence, we have come up with a list of 17 things all pregnant women should do before your toothless arrives.
1. Make sure to spend some alone time with your partner. Having a baby can decrease the amount of quality time you spend with your hubby. So, go on as many dates as you can. Also, plan out how many dates you will be going on after the baby arrives (alone). It’s very important that you constantly find some alone time along with your family time. Spend time with your friends, relatives too. Not that you won’t be able to meet them after the baby arrives. But it might be difficult for you to take out time for the first few months. Also, tell them that you sometimes might need their help in baby care. Never be afraid to ask for help especially as a new mother.
2. Arrange all the baby diapers, wash all the clothes, put together a first aid kit, buy sleepers (3-4), onesies(4-5), bibs(2-3), vests (4-5), hats(1-2), infant gowns etc. If you aren’t buying a lot of stuff make sure that you know the online shops that will help you the best.
During the first month, parents can change as much as 10 soiled or wet diapers a day. So, keep the stack ready for a month. Also, make sure that the cloth you buy for the baby is soft and doesn’t irritate baby’s skin. Pre wash all the clothes before birth. Look for more side-snap onesies instead of one that goes over their head.
3. Prepare for labor. This is a no brainer! You have probably already read a lot of books and blogs on what are the stages of labor, what if active labor stalls etc. Also, try to include some perineal massage, eat dates (dates consumption in last month of pregnancy significantly reduces induction and augmentation of labor), drink raspberry tea, do some breathing exercises, improve your posture to forge optimal fetal positioning.
4. Take some more maternity photos and don’t forget to arrange for newborn photography. Get yourself clicked some more, arrange for one more shoot. This time will never come again. Also, make sure that you hire a good professional photographer for your newborn photography. Newborn photography should be handled with care, so do go for someone who is a professional.
5. Find a good pediatrician. Every mother is quite anxious and becomes worried about even the slightest cough of her newborn baby. And that’s completely normal. It’s better that you find a doctor for your baby before she arrives because it can be a little difficult to do after the baby arrives. Ask some questions that concern you like if you can call him if something happens late at night, how will he help if you need to consult in after hours, since how many years he has been practicing, for how much time does a check up last? etc.
6. Pack your hospital bag and diaper bag. Your hospital bag and diaper bag should be packed and kept into the car’s trunk by the time the 9th month of pregnancy starts. As easy as it seems, choosing and finding things you would need is quite a daunting decision to make. We have made it easier on you and prepared a list with the only things you would need for a hospital bag checklist here.
7. Prepare for breastfeeding. Breastfeeding comes naturally to almost all the mothers. But it does involve a little preparation beforehand. For example, you need to know if your baby is getting enough or not, if the latch is proper, how to relieve yourself from some minor bumps along breastfeeding, how to use breast pump, if you need to supplement with the formula or not, diet tips etc. Some mothers struggle with low supply or maintaining their supply and it’s completely normal. There are some supplements, foods/recipes that include things like flax seeds, brewer’s yeast, fenugreek etc., lactation cookies that are available in the market that might work. Make sure that you do consult a lactation consultant if the supply doesn’t increase.
8. Know about breastfeeding red flags. Breastfeeding is accompanied by its own share of problems and you need to make sure that you know when it’s time to get medical help. Engorgement, little pain, latch problems are pretty common and sometimes can be resolved real soon. But, there are breastfeeding red flags you need to know like pain between feeding, if your nipples are inverted/flat, baby’s is not gaining enough weight etc.
9. Know about newborn red flags. A newborn baby needs help with everything. There are some baby movements which do decode what they need like sucking their thumb means they are hungry, rubbing their eyes means they are sleepy etc. But, still, there are some red flags which you need to be aware of like less energy, trouble breathing etc.
10. Make sure to know about all the vaccinations your newborn needs to get and when. It’s very important to get vaccinations even if you don’t want to see your baby in pain. Think about a whole society who are relying on small babies to get vaccinations so that no endemic breaks out.
11. Indulge in some pampering. Go to the parlor and get some manicure, pedicure, waxing done. You will be very tired during the first month of postpartum because your body is recovering, breastfeeding drains a lot of energy and to top all of that is the responsibility of a newborn baby.
12. Prepare for postpartum by buying postpartum comfy clothes, preparing padsicles, arranging for food. Also if you have a dog make sure that he already has learned some basic obedience commands to follow so that it’s easier to you when the baby comes. The relationship between a dog and a baby is something special to see.
Also, make sure if you have another child then he is also prepared for the new baby. You should give him time too and explain to him how a newborn baby function.
13. Clear out some extra space in your wardrobe. Shun out all the nonessentials, create compartment closets, buy tray compartments like these Pepperfry right here: Option no.1/Option no.2. Basically just organize the room and create some space for the baby stuff.
14. Figure out all your costs. Every household is different so instead of asking for advice/tips, you and your hubby should sit down and discuss all the costs that will be accompanied with a baby. You might have done financial planning before trying but a little re-check needs to be done. Because there are always things that need to be added at the last moment.
15. Manage work leave, learn about company policies and your maternity insurance plan. Don’t commit at your workplace before the baby arrives. Talk to your boss and your colleagues regarding any concerns that you have of your work. Make sure you know about the amount of paid and unpaid leaves you will be getting if there is any financial support you will get etc.
16. Don’t compare your journey as a mother to anybody else. Talking and communicating with someone about their experiences during pregnancy, labor, motherhood etc. is good but don’t compare yourself with anybody else. Your entire journey as a mother is definitely going to be much different than others. So, listen to everyone’s advice, know about their struggles and learn from their experiences, only to build your own.
17. Relax: It’s very important that you relax and calm down. Sometimes, it might be a little difficult to do, so make sure that you have someone around you in times like this.
Finally, enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can. Because soon you are going to miss it a lot. It seems impossible now, but you will.
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